lilbittydragon:

carpetmunchies:

really dislike that such a big part of (cis) lesbian comradery and casual conversation (unless I’m around other cis lesbians who are very critical of it, which there are) is joking, sometimes really maliciously, about how nasty “dick” is and how slutty people (women really) who “take dick” are. Like not only does it isolate transgender women and breed a culture of transmisogyny that is … really unnecessary (you don’t have to tell nasty jokes like that to talk about your lesbianism) but it leads to separation and strife between bi women and lesbians bc even though many cis lesbians think it’s ~just joaks~ there is a value system among lesbians (and bi women) based on whether one has slept with a man or not or how many men she has been with and, like, I don’t know how that is at all a good or healthy way to measure a woman’s love for other women. patriarchy literally already has a value system built around how some kind of “phallic” contact taints a woman. men are even uncomfortable with women’s clits bc they can be seen as phallic. like, lesbians don’t need this and there’s actually nothing ~radical~ about including it in our culture.

“patriarchy literally already has a value system built around how some kind of ‘phallic’ contact taints a woman.“