Saying “Fuck it” actually motivates me more than “You can do this”.
Because saying “fuck it” includes the total acceptance of failure as the outcome, meanwhile “you can do this” focuses only on the hopes of a successful outcome and the lack of acknowledgement of the equally probable failure outcome induces a certain level of unspoken anxiety
“…the Way of the Warrior is resolute acceptance of death.”
There will be a lot of homophobes in your life who won’t openly hate you. They’ll instead wait for a reason to hate you that is more socially acceptable in their circle.
not to hijack tbh, but this kind of like ‘secret’ homophobia applies to racism too – people won’t discriminate against you for shit they know they can’t get away with, but the minute they find anything else. not all bigots are stupid enough to give that shit away – the truly insidious ones find ways to discriminate without actually playing into MAGA style discrimination and bigotry